November 14, 2018

Samsara is a Sanskrit word that means ‘wandering,’ specifically in the cycle of birth and death and rebirth. Wandering implies exile, because we have split from the whole and now wander adrift in our separation. Western psychology offers a version of that split, positing that it occurs when we suffer a significant rupture in our caretaking. It may be hard to remember how much in love we were...

April 10, 2018

The following questions are intended to open you to what might be just below your awareness. They are intended to open you to subtle sources of intelligence. Feel free to move through them in quick succession, letting your intuition answer, or take your time with them, letting yourself deepen or daydream. They are a work-in-progress so I encourage you to add more questions in the Comments se...

August 28, 2017

The title of Mark Manson’s recent book—The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck—is subtly deceptive. He actually wants us to give a f*ck, but selectively, on our terms and in accordance with our values. He orients us to his challenge by posing the question that the great Viktor Frankl based Logotherapy on: If suffering is inevitable, what are we willing to suffer for? Manson encourages us to star...

March 26, 2017

At some point during adulthood, we might sense that we have gone astray, become separated from an essential part of our vitality, our soul, and may even feel that we are leading a life we hadn’t intended to. Soul Retrieval Therapy, which derives its name from the practice of soul retrieval in the ancient healing art of Shamanism, seeks to restore our connection to our vitality that neglect,...

January 12, 2017

New-year resolutions offer us an excellent opportunity to practice self-compassion simply because they present us with so many pitfalls. The first of which is perfectionism, defined here as the tendency to measure personal worth by success or failure. Indeed, many of our resolutions arise out of a perfectionistic disposition. The unspoken sentiment “If I don’t lose weight, I won’t get anyone...

December 13, 2016

"What we do not make conscious emerges later as fate."   —C.G. Jung

As social animals, we long to be known in relationship. Getting known in relationship allows us to feel safe, important, and loved, and it allows us to return the favor to others. If in our relationship with our primary caretakers the generosity of the love we received encouraged a progressively fuller expression of Self, the...

August 26, 2016

'The practice of compassion towards ourselves can be like the cultivation of an inner parent who is unconditional and accepting. This can enable a softening and letting go…so that we inhabit a more caring inner landscape.' Rob Preece (p. 43)

Cultivating a caring inner landscape is challenging for many of us. When we experience deep shame, jealousy, a strong sense of worthlessness, we feel li...

July 25, 2016

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A friend of mine is grieving the end of her five-year partnership, and she is fighting herself. She believes she gives away her power when she lets herself feel the heartbreak of her loss. “I’m not letting her turn me into this,” she says, bracing against the emotion rising in her. “She is not turning you into anything,” I tell her. “You’re already it.” She stares at me with a mixture of...

June 21, 2016

I have had the privilege of working with some wonderful children in therapy. Inevitably, each will stare out from the depth of his or her confusion as if to ask, “How do I operate this thing anyway?” I will volunteer that noticing your feelings and letting yourself feel them is a pretty good start, and I might initiate a game called “Do you notice when?” (Only would children confined to a th...

June 14, 2016

'So what is really the path of healing? It can begin in this moment, by embracing the life that's here.' ~ Tara Brach

Here's a question to contemplate: Do you catch yourself when you fall? Or, to reframe it slightly, when life disappoints you, what is your default? Do you blame yourself? Do you blame others (even if they're not responsible)? Do you binge-watch a series on Netflix? Do you laug...

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