

The Power in Opening to Pain
One A friend of mine is grieving the end of her five-year partnership, and she is fighting herself. She believes she gives away her power when she lets herself feel the heartbreak of her loss. “I’m not letting her turn me into this,” she says, bracing against the emotion rising in her. “She is not turning you into anything,” I tell her. “You’re already it.” She stares at me with a mixture of confusion and contempt, and I see that I have succeeded only in making her feel worse